I included some info on Charlie's laundry detergent hidden in my pre-baby post about diapers, but it's been quite a while since then. I still love, love, love Charlie's! I use the liquid detergent, but it comes in powder form. I don't know where you're located, but you can find a retailer on their website. I totally understand what you mean about not wanting to have to order it online, but one of the gallon bottles of this stuff lasts us months (we still have 3/4 left in our second bottle since we started using it in October- so I'd say it will last a family of 3, cloth diapering included, about 5 months!). The cost of shipping will be more than made up for by the savings in product. I did the math, and this is by far the cheapest option I've found. I love it when the safest, most natural option is also the cheapest!
We don't use any fabric softener because it's so toxic, but we do use dryer balls. They got us through a dry Chicago winter with minimal static, which impressed me. I love that the Nellie's dryer balls have the option of scenting the laundry with natural lavender essential oil and nothing else, but we don't even keep our balls refilled. Now that I've weaned myself off of super-scented soaps, the smell of clean laundry smells like just that- clean, unscented fabric.
Wishing you a joyful, quick birth!